Since the spring is here giving us sinus infections and summer is approaching, new relationships are budding. Today I decided to ask men and women what they wish their partner knew during sex. I was curious! And the answers were good. Let’s get into it. Ladies first! 

Question: What is one thing you wish men knew about pleasing women during sex?

Answers: 

“Focus on the breasts.”

“If they (men) don’t like eating it (the love cave), don’t pretend.”

“”Connected emotionally”

“Pleasing her is first priority”

“No plucking at the lady parts.”

“Kiss the body, touch, and lick.”

“Wet it before you stick it.”

“Foreplay”

“It’s not a race. Slow down”

“It shouldn’t be all about climaxing… we are sharing energies.”

“He can’t be selfish.”

(Most of the ladies answered “foreplay” and “slowing down.” Foreplay was stated mostly because women feel they aren’t fully ready for penetration because men aren’t spending enough time paying attention to their bodies. Secondly, slowing down is huge because men typically reach orgasm before women do. When you think your partner is in it for only his pleasure you don’t have a great and fulfilling sex life you’re entitled to

To the MEN: Show her you care about more than getting YOUR climax! Check this video out! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JmNPDhcHPcg). Yes, I took the fact that you guys are visual creatures into consideration. You’re welcome. :)

To my surprise, the men had a lot MORE to say of the SAME thing. Take a look at their answers…

Question: What’s one thing you wish women knew about pleasing men during sex?

Answers:

“The sex varies on the relationship you have with that person.”

“Pay attention to detail.”

“Don’t make me help you give me head.”

“Have enthusiasm”

“Be active and don’t just lay there.”

“Food after sex.”

“Swallow”

“Giving head. Not all women know how to do it!”

“Make the man feel dominate.”

“Be the best”

“Be open to something new.”

“No biting or scratching, men don’t like pain.”

“Oral sex ain’t meant to be cute”

“Don’t ask how the sex was.”

(The men are more concerned about how their women pleasure them orally
and their women taking the wheel sometimes. Believe it or not, a lot of men find it sexy when women have the confidence to perform “cowgirl” or any other power woman position.

To the LADIES: If you need some tips on how to give your man some good oral sex he’ll be dreaming out check this site out! http://www.askmen.com/dating/vanessa/30b_love_secrets.html) 

At the end of the day, don’t let this blog post influence you into thinking this is what EVERY woman and man thinks their partner should know. Everyone is different in their own way and it is up to you to find out what your partner wants and try your best to deliver it. 

Love smart! :) -Frantrele

During a press conference in London about the new movie “Battleship” Rihanna stars in, she was asked a question about Ashton Kutcher. I knew Rihanna isn’t the poster child for filtering what comes out of her mouth, but I wasn’t prepared for this! Check out this YouTube video…

Click and watch! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dnFo53_yfeI&feature=youtu.be

I ask this question because nowadays men are dealing with women who are just as powerful as they are. Is it a good thing, though? As I think about Hillary Clinton and Condoleezza Rice, they are powerful women, but at the end of they day are they getting the attention and respect they deserve?

Then I think there will never be a female president. Women have fought long and hard for equality yet we are still getting paid less than men for the same job. Why? Why do WE have to work 10x harder than men to get where we want to be? 

Yes, men are logical thinkers and less likely to use their emotions in certain situations. Women are capable of thinking logically as well, but for some reason women think we are ONLY emotional thinkers which is totally true. We go to college and get the same education as men (we sit in the same classroom!), so why aren’t we taken as seriously?  

Everyone thinks only men are capable of running large businesses and that isn’t true! Here are the 18 FEMALE CEOs of Fortune 500 Companies. Be inspired! 

1. Andrea Jung (Avon Products)

2. Irene Rosenfeld (Kraft Foods)

3. Ursula Burns (Xerox)

4. Gracia C. Matone (Garnett)

5. Ginni Rometty (IBM)

6. Heather Bresch (Mylan Inc.)

7. Meg Whitman (Hewlett-Packard)

8. Denise M. Morrison (Campbell Group)

9. Deanna Mulligan (Guardian Life)

10. Debra Reed (Sempra Energy)

11. Beth Mooney (KeyCorp)

12. Lynn Elsenhans (Semco)

13. Ellen Kullman (DuPont)

14. Laura Sen (BJs Wholesale Club)

15. Angela Braly (Well Point)

16. Carol Meyrowitz (The TJX Companies)

17. India Nooyi (PepsiCo)

18.Patricia Woertz (Archer Daniel Midland)

There you have it! 18 CEOs of VERY large companies who are WOMEN. Remember nothing is too small for to do to get where you want to be. I’m sure none of these women would have thought they would have made it that far. All you need is determination and a hard work ethic…you can get where you want to be! 

-@Frantrele

I rarely.. *clears throat*…never write blogs about fashion, but I love this summer’s styles so much that I have to! I will primarily focus on MY favorite styles I am wearing this summer. 80s style and Native American inspired clothing has caught my eye. Check out these photos! 

Let’s start with the 80s first…

Amber Rose in a bright top and bottom with a jean jacket (really hot this summer) over with yellow heels. Go, girl! This is only an example! If you are like most of us, you’re on a budget. Forever 21 (I know, I know) has cute 80s wear at a good price that won’t hurt your wallet. Last week, I bought a polka dot neon green top that I love! 

If you aren’t into extremes, try these looks! It’s still 80s and still fab! 

Native American Chic….

This is a style you can mix and match. It doesn’t have to look perfect. If you buy a native american print top as the one shown in the picture you can easily match it with one of the colors in your top for your shoes. You can’t go wrong with brown in the this style! Moccasins would look awesome (the shoe since it’s summer) or cute and very simple earth toned sandals. Love this! 

Polka Dot Galor…. 

The good thing that I love about polka dots and why it’s my FAVORITE style of this summer is that you can dress them up or down! Also, you can where them with or on anything.

Cameron Diaz is shown here in a polka dot dress and “dominatrix” heels. However, I wouldn’t have worn those shoes, but the dress is cute! 

Instead… let me give you an example of a day at the office look and a night out look side by side! This is an awesome picture to show you guys! As you can see, on the left, that would be a daytime look (or office. It depends on the dress code), while the image on the right would be an office/dinner look. ADELE’s dress she wore during her performance on the Grammys was FAB by the way! …and polka dot! Missed it? Google! 

Lastly, for all the polka dot women out there who are absolutely obsessed with polka dots this season as I am, here’s something I own and I love…Yes, dolls! That is a Kate Spade New York polka dot case for iPhone! You can pick one up at your local Apple store or order online. I have the white polka dot case. It’s under $50 dollars AND stylish! 

That’s it for my favorite trends for the Spring/Summer! I hope you love them and buy! :) 

sexoquente:

rapeculturemakesmeangry:

This is from the slut walk. One of the arguments is that girls ask for rape because they wear slutty clothes, short skirts, tight, low-cut tops. This girl is an example of the fact that rape victims can look like anyone, you, me, this girl. Rapists. Dont. Discriminate.

I promised a long time ago that I’d reblog this whenever I saw it on my dash. No regrets, it breaks my heart every single time.

an incredibly important message, rape is rape. no one is ever asking for it. a woman has the right to dress how ever they want - it is society that identifies risque dressing as ‘asking for it’, and in my opinion, that way of thinking needs to be diminished.

this is so beautiful

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Phone cases have protected our cellular phones for as long as I can remember, but! What if it takes away from the the over all feel of your phone? If you have an iPhone like many of us, the thought of having your phone unprotected sends shivers down your spine. Why buy a phone that you have to cover up? The obvious excuse would be if you don’t cover it up and drop it on accident it will shatter. That is true…. but do you think Apple developed the iPhone with having the need to buy a case for it in mind? Then you would have to spend even MORE money for their cases. Good business, right? 

I’ve learned yesterday that Apple has developed a rechargeable phone case. A phone case that is rechargeable. You place your phone inside it when you aren’t near an outlet or far from your car charger. It makes sense… only to those who seriously depend on their phones and I’m not one of them! I’m not too excited as other Apple enthusiasts may be. Especially not with the $80 or so price tag. I’ll pass!

Now switching to the cellular world as a whole, do you think phones are being made more cheaply these days that we would need a phone case for them? I mean, they aren’t like the phones that were available in the 90s. You could throw those phones against a brick wall, stomp on them, run your car over them and the functionality wouldn’t be tested! It seems to me that phones these days are cheaply made and come with a hefty price tag. Phones are sleeker, thinner, and less parts are used. Less money to manufacture, less money in the consumer’s pockets, and more money in the company’s CEO account! If you are following my logic…… phones are made more prone to breaking. Which comes from the company, Samsung, Blackberry, Apple, LG… etc! Who also have phone cases for purchase. Get it? More and more money!

Some consumers think it’s all cool, that these phone companies are just on the cutting edge of technology when they are really constantly figuring out ways to get more and more money out of you. Think twice about buying your next cellular phone or the latest cellular accessory that you absolutely can’t live without! 

Ms. Intellecual

Goapele has graced us with her fourth studio album, “Break of Dawn!” I’ve been a huge fan since I heard her single “Closer.” Her voice is so soft and peaceful! She has a more R&B flair to this album than her previous and I love it! Goapele has a view tracks on the album that I have to scratch my head while listening to, but she wouldn’t be Goapele if they didn’t exist! As always (well, on some reviews), I will go through each song in the order it plays on the album and tell you guys my thoughts…

1. “Play” : Very sexy, dominatrix song… I love the animal sound at the beginning. It gives it an extra edge. Even though it’s sexy, she still makes it sound classy and that’s what I love the most about her!

2. “Tears on My Pillow” : I’m sure this song was a re-do or inspired by another song (I can’t put my finger on it). One of my favorite songs on the album and I’m sure we’ve all been there. “I think I finally understand how you could love someone and leave them. It must be hard to be a man holding back so many feelings.” (My favorite part!) It was very well written and how she sings it makes you feel it. The production is flawless.

3. “Undertow” : Beautiful song! Another favorite… It’s mainly about love in a spiritual, emotional, and physical sense. She covers all three! This is a song you can chill with your partner and listen to while sipping wine on the floor cuddling in front of the fire. :) Sultry! 

4. “Break of Dawn” : I love the message. 

5. “Hush” : One of the tracks I have to scratch my head on… I still don’t understand it. I have to listen to it a couple of times! 

6. “Money” : Another track I have to scratch my head on… I get this one, but I don’t can’t get into this one like her other songs. She’s basically saying that money doesn’t amount to their love… 

7. “Pieces” : It actually took me a while to warm up to this song, but now I play it often. One of my favorites. 

8. “Right Here” : I never thought this song would be my ABSOLUTE favorite on the album because it’s faster and it doesn’t really mean as much as the others, but I love the beat and the lyrics are simple. It sounds so good turned up loud in your car!  

9. “Milk & Honey” : This song is for the sexy! Definitely. I’m not going to get into what it talks about, but… lol. If you listen to the song, you’ll get the idea. It’s about love making and it isn’t nasty… she keeps it classy! I mentioned I love this about her on “Play.”

10. “Cupcake” : This song plays into the “fantasy” form of love… it sounds cute!

All in all, this is a great album and I recommend that everyone should give it a listen because she fused a lot of sounds into one album with 10 songs. This album can’t be defined. It’s not a solid R&B, Pop, Rock,…etc. album… it’s a very tastefully done package of different sounds that manage to flow pretty well throughout. I own the album! I downloaded from iTunes. That says a lot! Go get it! Don’t miss out. :)

Ms. Intellectual. 

Hate is an evil word… and an even more evil act. There is a laundry list of examples I could insert in this post, but I want to focus on one particular type of hate that hurts me the most: hatred from your own kind.

When I say “hatred from your own kind”, I mean hatred from people that look just like you… people that have the same skintone as you… people whose ancestors came from the same land as yours… people who you share a culture with. Why does there seem to be so much hatred among blacks?! It’s so much more than a light-skinned/ dark-skinned thing now. It’s like we’re in competition with each other (especially us black women). I complimented this girl on her outfit once, and you would SWEAR by the look that she gave me that I was trying to steal her shoes!! It was a regular day at Clayton State, and I was waiting in the hallway for one of my classes to start, and there was a girl standing nearby; she had on a very nice outfit, and some bad ass shoes to match. I’ve always been the type of person to compliment someone (male or female) and not think twice about it… it’s just who I am! So I leaned over and said to her “you look nice today, cute outfit”…. and she looks me up and down, rolls her eyes, and says “thank you” with a straight face. Now, maybe she was having a bad day, I don’t know. But I do know that even when I’m not at my best, I at least try to smile if someone says something nice to me. I really wanted to grab her by her cheap ass yaki and say “honey, I am not trying to jack your style, calm down”.

I had this conversation about ”black women competing with each other” with one of my coworkers, and she told me about a woman who refused to tell her where she got her handbag from. She said that the woman told her that is was “specially made”, so my coworker asked if she could give her a name or number to the designer because she was interested in getting one made. My coworker said “she told me that she doesn’t know the name… who gives their money to a person to create something for them, and you don’t know her name?!”. Seriously, who really does that? You are so afraid that someone is gonna have something just like yours, so instead of turning another sista on to it (all the while helping to promote a business) you tell her you don’t know the name? Instead of smiling and saying “thank you” when I compliment you, you roll your eyes at me, thinking that I’m gonna start trying to dress like you? Climb off that high horse of yours…

Relaxed hair/natural hair. Where do I begin with THIS monster? Let me start off by saying… BOTH PARTIES ARE GULITY to a degree. I have an issue with black women with relaxers looking down on black women who choose to wear naturals, and vice versa. I mean, really? We have the liberty (and the pleasure) to choose whether we want it straight, or just straight kinky! But let’s get to the root of it: none of us black women were born with straight hair *GASPS*. Got a problem with it, take it to Jesus (He’s the only one who really cares). It just saddens me when I see young black girls (and women) that basically shun the idea of letting their natural texture show. Granted, I understand that everybody “may not look right with a ‘fro”, or that your “head is too big”, or whatever excuse there is, but I hate to hear women say “I can’t do the nappy hair thang”. First of all, it’s what your hair looks like when it grows out of your scalp. Second, if you’ve never tried it, how can you say you can’t do it? This girl I once knew was listening in on a conversation I was having with a friend about my afro, and she decides to jump in and say “it just ain’t right”. So I say “what’s not right?”, then she replies “walking out in public with nappy hair… it just ain’t right”. I wanted to tell her that walking in public with a two-toned plastic wig ain’t right either, but Jesus won that battle. Now I look back on that and laugh because that same chick is wearing her natural texture today. Don’t get me wrong, I used to love me some creamy crack… but it didn’t love me. I had lovely hair and cute hairstyles, but my scalp was so unhealthy: dry flakes, scabs from being burned… you name it. Not for me anymore (right now).

I said all of that to say this: there’s no need to compete, because at the end of the day, we are STILL NIGGAS!! Just kidding!!!! Seriously though, we are a people and we should start acting like it. There is no need for the arrogance, the hatred, or the judgement! Let’s just love each other and embrace our differences… because we are one BEAUTIFULLY DIVERSE RACE (we just don’t know it)!!!!

P.S. This is to promote awareness… I swear, I’m not a complainer! lol

@Ms. Spitfire